100 questions

100 Questions to Get to Know Someone

"So what do you do?" is the most asked and least interesting question when meeting someone. These 100 questions to get to know someone are personal without being intrusive. They work on a first date just as well as with a new colleague or the person who just moved into your flat. The sections go from light to deep, so you decide how far to go.

Start with the lighter questions and only go deeper when both of you want to. Whoever asks a question should answer it too. That principle is at the heart of HYTCH: you answer first, then the other person's answer becomes visible.

The questions

Icebreakers

1
What has already been good today, even if it was small?
2
What would you get up early for?
3
What could you talk about for hours without getting bored?
4
Doing what do you lose track of time?
5
What is the best thing that has happened to you this year?
6
What is a place where you immediately calm down?
7
What would you do with a free month?
8
What is something small that makes you disproportionately happy?
9
Which food could you eat every week?
10
What was the best decision you made this week?
11
Which skill would you like to master overnight?
12
Which song are you currently playing on repeat?
13
What is your most unpopular opinion about something completely trivial?
14
Are you more of an early bird or a night owl, and what does that say about you?
15
When was your last really good day, and what made it good?
16
What do you happily spend too much money on?
17
Which app would you miss the most?
18
What was the last thing you laughed out loud about?
19
Which place in the world would you like to see once without taking photos?
20
Which question do you like asking new people most?

Personality

21
What do your friends not understand about you?
22
What do people say about you when you are not in the room?
23
Which habit would you like to get rid of?
24
What reliably throws you off?
25
What is an opinion you often stand alone with?
26
Which three things matter to you immediately in people?
27
What does your home reveal about you?
28
When do you most like being alone?
29
What role does your job play in how you see yourself?
30
What was a prejudice you had about yourself?
31
What sets you apart most from your parents?
32
What are you better at than you admit?
33
What are you worse at than others think?
34
How do you handle criticism, honestly?
35
Are you more of a planner or someone who goes with the flow?
36
What is your way of dealing with stress, and does it work?
37
Which compliment do you hear often, and which would you rather hear?
38
How do you notice an acquaintance turning into a friendship?
39
When did you last step out of your comfort zone?
40
What would your siblings or closest friends name as your weakness?

For a first date

41
What is a compliment that really landed?
42
When did you last dare to do something for the first time?
43
What is something you are learning right now?
44
What is the best advice you have ever received?
45
What is a question people ask you too rarely?
46
What was your last moment of real gratitude?
47
What is a wish you are embarrassed about?
48
What do you want people to notice about you?
49
What does a perfect weekend look like for you?
50
What was the best part of your last trip?
51
Which quality do you value most in other people?
52
What would win you over immediately?
53
What is a dealbreaker for you, and what only looks like one?
54
How do you show someone that you like them?
55
What is the kindest thing a stranger has ever done for you?
56
What was the best date you ever had, and what made it good?
57
How do you spend an evening when you have nothing to prove to anyone?
58
What was your childhood dream, and how much of it do you live today?
59
What have you had too little time for lately?
60
Which question would you like to ask me?

New friends, colleagues, flatmates

61
What was the best job you ever had, and why?
62
What does your ideal working day look like?
63
What do you do after work to really switch off?
64
Which rule would you introduce immediately for living well together?
65
What is your go-to dish when guests come over?
66
What is something new people always assume wrongly about you?
67
What would you like more time for in everyday life?
68
What kind of weekend do you need after a hard week?
69
What is the best advice a colleague ever gave you?
70
What should nobody talk to you about in the morning?
71
Which tradition from your home or family would you like to pass on?
72
What was your biggest move so far, and what did you learn from it?
73
How do you most like celebrating your birthday?
74
How do you show in everyday life that you appreciate someone?
75
What is a skill you would like to teach someone?
76
Which hobby have you given up and miss?
77
What was your best experience with complete strangers?
78
What can always win you over for a spontaneous evening?
79
How do you handle conflicts when you cannot avoid them?
80
What would you like to know about the people you deal with every day?

Deeper

81
When did you last feel truly alive?
82
Which person has shaped your life the most?
83
What did you want to be as a child, and what of that is still in you?
84
What was a decision that changed everything?
85
What is an experience you never want to have again?
86
Which person have you wrongly underestimated?
87
What does friendship mean to you, in one sentence?
88
How do you know you can trust someone?
89
Which conversation changed you most recently?
90
What do you need help with right now and are not asking for?
91
What is a fear you rarely admit?
92
What are you proud of without ever having said it out loud?
93
What have you learned about yourself in recent years?
94
Which relationship in your life would you have liked to repair?
95
What is a value you are willing to get into trouble for?
96
When did you last cry in front of someone, and how was that?
97
What do you wish from the people around you but do not say?
98
Which version of yourself would you like to meet again?
99
What truly makes you happy, beyond the usual answers?
100
What do you want me to know about you after this conversation?